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Breathing deeply

We spent time today with friends whose son died two years ago October at 28 weeks. I don’t think we had seen them since. I sent flowers and then didn’t know what to say, even though I thought of them … Continue reading

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Brilliance

There are those who shimmer, like a fresh-cut diamond, casting sparks of rainbow light on others’ hearts as they pass. I have an abundance of these gems in my life – some new friends, some old, some I’ve only met … Continue reading

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

Next Friday October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. I’d never heard of it before, which seems another indication that while the reality of this impossible situation is acknowledged, we are to grieve as quietly, as privately … Continue reading

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An Open Letter to My Family and Friends

A few days ago, I got an honest and heart-full email from a pregnant friend telling me she just didn’t know what to do. Was she supposed to let me know they’d hired the woman I’d recommended as their doula? … Continue reading

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Grief and Compassion

There is a man in dirty jeans and sweat stained shirt, talking on the phone and holding a stop sign. He is balanced on one leg, his heavy work boot planted firmly in the center of my chest. His name … Continue reading

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The river it is flowing

Support sometimes comes from the most unexpected places. Today I got a call from a woman who was in my pregnancy support group. I loved the group and I was drawn to Nicole in particular, although all of the women … Continue reading

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Fear

I woke up this morning around 5am and rested my hand on what I thought was Ada’s stomach. It felt cold (she runs warm) and I couldn’t feel the gentle rise and fall of her breath. In an instant, ice … Continue reading

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The difference of a week

I am holding it together as much as I can. Surrounded by people, we are back at our friends’ home while Steve is on the road. It’s unbelievable to me that less than a week ago I sat on this … Continue reading

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